February can be a great month for couples whose love life is going well, with Valentine’s Day being a special occasion to celebrate all that is good about being together.
For many others, however, life is far from like that and this will have been a hard month - something that does not just apply to those who are currently unattached.
Many people who are married or in established relationships might have found themselves reflecting enviously on the apparently wonderful romances others were displaying on February 14th, although there are always people who will put on a show in public that hides a different reality in private.
However, it does not make sense to ask why others seem to be doing so well. Rather, to get to the route of your own problems will involve evaluating what is causing difficult, with the answer often being stress.
If your career is causing you stress and anxiety, it can be very hard not to take that home. Whether it makes you tired, irritable, impatient, or simply restricts your quality time with your significant other, the impact can be greater than you realise.
This may manifest in a deterioration with how you treat each other, but in other cases the problem can be that of bottling things up and shutting out attempts by your partner to provide support. This is the very reverse of a positive relationship pattern, where you feel able to open up and share everything.
A relationship life coach can be invaluable in this situation, because they can help you plan to take specific steps aimed at achieving clear goals, putting these in the place of a vague desire to “make things better”.
That means identifying specific areas of behaviour where you might stop doing certain negative things and put more positive actions in their place.
It also means arranging your time so that you can fit certain activities into your schedule. That might mean quality time alone together, for instance, either in a romantic setting or a shared interest.
By having someone work alongside you to develop a clear strategy, you can take clear, positive and effective steps that will get your relationship back on track.